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Sunday, September 16, 2012

Just Say No to Effexor Anti-Anxiety Medication

Just say no to Effexor anti-anxiety medication

       Just one woman's experience withdrawing from Effexor

Hey y'all,

It's time to start getting real. I want to start telling you little parts of my story, so we can connect on a deeper level. I want you to understand why I started becoming interested in natural healing as opposed to allopathic medicine.

It may have started with my experience with Effexor. Back in April 1989, I had a miscarriage. It was my fourth baby, a baby I really wanted and had prayed for. I lost the baby at seven weeks gestation, about two weeks after I had found out I was pregnant.

I was so happy to learn that I was going to have another little one, and was already in love with it. I never knew if my baby was a boy or a girl. That has always bothered me, even to this writing.

That miscarriage changed my life forever. I didn't understand why I didn't get to keep that baby. My baby.

I lost the baby the day before Easter. My parents were visiting for the holiday. I had been spotting and cramping a little bit the day before, but with company coming along with a huge Christian holiday my other three children were really looking forward to, I ignored how I felt and kept working.

I lost the baby during the night in my bathroom, cramping, hemorrhaging, crying, and nearly losing my life. I stayed in the bathroom all night, not wanting to wake anyone up. In the morning, I told my husband and parents. I felt like I had failed as a woman and a mother. I thought somehow I had killed my baby.

My Daddy was my baby's pall bearer. The local garbage truck was the hearse. My baby was laid to rest in a Louisiana landfill. We planted a young sapling in the back yard as a memorial.

I called my OB/GYN with the news. She chewed me out for not coming in as soon as I started experiencing symptoms. I should have called an ambulance. I could have died last night. Stupid woman. Come in for a D & C to make sure we got it all.

Got it all?

Unfortunately, words were said by others to suggest I hadn't taken care of myself, and I did kill my baby. I had been varnishing a coffee table with toxic chemicals the week before. Maybe that killed the baby. Maybe I hadn't been eating right or getting enough sleep and that killed the baby.

Whatever it was, it was my fault that my baby was dead.

I went into a deep, dark depression. I was grieving the loss of my baby, but I noticed that some women were able to jump right back and have another baby within a few months. I couldn't do it. I felt like my flesh had been torn out of my womb.

I wanted to die myself. I absolutely felt like I was a complete failure and did not deserve to live any more.

I finally told my doctor, who immediately put me on Effexor.

It took three weeks for the medicine to kick in. I hated being on it. I hated the fact that my kids said I was happier now. I hated the fact that I needed a pill to be happy. I wanted to be happy by myself.

Even though I was "happier," it wasn't true happiness. It was medicated happiness. It was a lie. I wanted to deal with my problems on my own, and live a life free from drugs. I decided to get off the Effexor without telling anyone, and face life like a grown up.

I was on Effexor for a total of six months. I had no idea that there would be withdrawal symptoms. I had no idea that the way I felt after I quit taking Effexor were withdrawal symptoms. I just figured that the Effexor had been masking these symptoms, and that this was the true state of my health.

WebMD lists the following as possible withdrawal effects of Effexor:

  • Nausea
  • Vomiting
  • Headaches
  • Electrical zaps in the brain
  • Muscle twitching
  • Shaking
  • Sweating
  • Mood swings
  • Nightmares
  • Crying for no reason
People weaning off Effexor say they feel like they are dying. I wanted to die, and the only thing keeping me going was the fact that I wanted my children to have a good mother. I even thought about killing myself so my husband could find a better mother than me. But my children wanted me.

I did get off Effexor by myself in order to save face. It was hard.

It took me a whole year before I was willing to consider having another baby. Losing my baby showed me the preciousness of human life. I went on to have my other four children. If I hadn't had that miscarriage, I never would have had seven children.

There are very safe alternatives to antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications such as Effexor. 

Magnesium is one of them. You can pour 1-2 cups of Epsom salt in your bath water every night and allow the magnesium to soak in through your skin. You can stir in a pinch of Epsom salt into your drinking water. It works as a mild laxative and helps keep your calcium to magnesium ratio balanced.

I may write a blog post about how wonderful and essential magnesium is in the future.

Please feel free to leave your comments below. I love hearing from you.


  1. I am so sorry that happened to you. Regarding magnesium, please know that there is a transdermal magnesium product available that is even more bioavailable than bathing in Epsom salts. Just rub it on your bare skin, take a wonderful foot bath, add it to your bath water. Rubbing it on bare skin is the most effective. Check for it on Amazon.

    1. Thank you for the comment! The miscarriage happened decades ago, and is now just a part of my life story. I appreciate the tip on the transdermal magnesium product.

  2. I totally agree with your advice about magnesium. I have a similar testimony about getting off of prescription drugs and onto a naturopathic/homeopathic means of healing and lifestyle. My ailment was chronic fatigue syndrome and i was taking over $350 a month of mostly experimnetal drugs casuing worse side effects than origianl symtpoms. When I became engaged in the process of my healing which initially came from much prayer and devotion to the Holy Bible scriptures concerning healing, I began taking great magnesium supplements.My deficiency had caused a heart murmur due to mitral valve prolapse, which upon examination from my cardiologist confirmed that I no longer had the murmur or prolapse. He refused to believe it was cured from resolving a condition of magnesium deficiency! I applaud you for taking control of your God given life and seeing that all things do work for good.